Equal Pay for Equal work – It Seems a Fair Deal!

I think you will have to search long and hard to find people who do not agree that everyone should get the same rate of pay for doing the same job- irrespective of age, gender, sexuality, ability etc. The truth is you would have to be something of a dinosaur to think otherwise. In the world today, the job should be evaluated and the respective rate of pay determined; it should not be based on any other factors and indeed the law in the UK anyway supports that stance. Any employers not paying a going rate for the job to everyone is liable to legal action.

Now that being the case and given that there are not huge numbers of legal cases waiting to go to court where does the gender pay gap fit in??? Let’s be honest it would be very unusual for the legal world not to jump into the argument if they thought there was a pound or two in it for them. So what is it all about?

Unusually (said with tongue in cheek), the media are whipping up a storm of confusion about pay rates and it worries me that we now have female MP’s jumping on the bandwagon – my god these MP’s are supposed to have the brains to run our country and yet they do not seem to understand the basics around the alleged gender pay gap!!

Basically if you are a cleaner working for a business and the pay rate is £7.80 per hour that’s what you will get, it will not matter what your gender/ sexuality is. The same applies to all jobs, if you are a basic grade newly qualified nurse you will get the same pay as your peers irrespective of gender/ sexuality. Where the problem arises is when people start to try to compare some jobs with other jobs, recent examples have been working in warehouse deliveries at a supermarket being compared to working on the shop floor; another was comparing jobs in the airline industry such as pilot and cabin crew. This is a false comparison as it arguably is not comparing like with like. So where does the gender issue arise, there is nothing stopping females from becoming pilots/ warehouse delivery personnel just as there is nothing preventing males from becoming shop floor workers/ cabin crew and indeed there are examples of each of these things happening resulting in shop floor workers male and female receiving the same rate of pay according to their grade/ age.

So the gender pay gap is NOT about the rate of pay for the job you do, it is about your earning capacity over your working lifetime. The argument being made is that on average the females will earn less than their male counterparts over their working life because they will not hold as many of the senior posts which attract a higher pay rate, THAT fact is probably very true but does that mean women are being treated less favourably?? Well that depends on how you look at it.

If we look at the average couple with children, the female gives up her career aspirations to have the babies and look after them, then she works part time to fit things around school/ because the nursery fees are high or because the couple only want the free nursery hours. This will probably cover many households but the reality is the female only needs to be off work for 6weeks post delivery unless she had a section when depending on what her job is she may need to be off for 12weeks. After the medical reasons for having time off are taken into account there is no reason why the remainder of any leave cannot be divided between both parents, subsequently having less of an impact on either person’s career; but the truth is that it is usually the female who decides to take ALL of the leave – often leaving the male feeling left out of the bonding process, resulting in her having a career break or missing promotion opportunities at work, so yes her over all average earnings will be less than that of her male counterpart. But NO it is not because she HAS to take the time off to look after the children, she only HAS to take the 6-12 weeks off post delivery, any other time taken is by choice or as a result of her agreement with her partner.

Lets go on to consider the single  parent – don’t forget not ALL single parents are female and the reasons why any parent is single are very varied from choice /divorce/ separation/ death to name the most obvious causes. And yes irrespective of why you are single things are more difficult to manage on your own and your choices are different, that includes those females – some of whom I worked with, who made a conscious decision to give up a professional full time job to do part time in the same job – because if they worked more than 16hrs they would lose the benefits they would otherwise be able to claim!! They had calculated that by claiming state benefits and working 16hrs they were at least as well off as they were when they worked full time so why bother doing the full time when they would be no worse off doing 16hrs! Believe me it was galling to listen to females who were in well paid professional jobs who decided to get pregnant – more than once because the finances only worked out if you had a minimum of 2 children!! These were women who made a conscious well planned lifestyle choice!

Then there are the single female parents who only live on state benefits and have no intentions of working, they are now furious and upset because the government has put a maximum level on the amount they can receive irrespective of how many children they have. I must admit to thinking that is fair, after all if there was a new baby expected in my family I could not go to my boss and automatically get a pay rise to feed another mouth, I would have to manage my finances better. And before lots of you go off shouting about how poor people on benefits really are I have two nieces on benefits, both have more than one child, one works 16hrs and gets her benefits, the other with 4 children was receiving the equivalent of £28,000 per anum, this included free nursery, all school breakfasts and lunches, her rent and council tax and water rates – not bad eh!! I wouldn’t mind but both these young ladies have a good degree, but neither is paying that back either!! These single parents again have made lifestyle choices.

Now for those parents who find themselves launched into an unplanned single parent situation the whole business can be traumatic whether they are male or female and I do think employers should have to be flexible and make some time allowance available for these people to get themselves sorted out, but this is not just a female matter so it would impact on career opportunities irrespective of the person’s gender.

So back to the gender pay gap; it is argued that many women have a reduction in earning opportunities because they HAVE to take low paid work to fit around their family demands – well clearly they do not. They cannot be forced from the job they held just because they are pregnant and that job has to be kept for them for the duration of their legally allowed maternity leave, so the choice to leave the job/ take lower paid work is theirs as their employers are also legally required to offer flexible working for the first 5yrs after the child is born – again for those worried about the impact on their career the leave can be taken by the male or the female.

On the face of it this whole argument is looking very thin and lacks substance as it is very much down to choices. Where the situation is very different is if the person is on a zero hours contract or self employed when irrespective of gender there can be a serious impact on the family finances if there is suddenly a crisis that results in the need to adjust your life to accommodate child care.

So does the gender pay gap really mean

female gets pregnant – takes 1yr leave- may be supported by partner whilst on leave – returns to work part time for own reasons- cannot do the full job remit on reduced hours- loses experience – does not want greater work responsibilities – child grows up – female wants to resume full career – sees her male counterparts who have been working full time hours and had no breaks making greater career advances – female feels left behind – Feels everything is Unfair – Starts claiming gender pay gap!

The reality is that even if the pay rate never changed from £15 an hour for 30years a person working 36hrs a week will earn more in 30yrs  (total earned=£842,400 )than someone who gets the same rate of pay but works 10 of the 30yrs at half the hours (Total earned =£678600) In this example the pay gap is £163,800 less earned in a lifetime,

  • but is it a gender pay gap??
  • NO, because if a male took the same career break decision the outcome would be the same!!

Now if a female returns to work and get everything up to full speed again but constantly get overlooked for promotion then we have an issue, BUT THIS IS NOT A PAY GAP it is a loss of career opportunity based on gender so it is inequality of opportunity, which, if it happens in the UK is against the law; so again if this is the problem

  • Why do we not have lawyers like swarms of bees round the honey pot on this one?

IF ANYONE HAS THE ANSWER LET ME KNOW

Sorry ladies but it is beginning to look like you want your cake and eat it, the situation is exactly the same where males take time out of work/ career breaks/ reduce their hours for domestic reasons, therefore this is not a gender issue, you may argue that it affects more women but again much of that is because of choices they make.

Interesting that once again it is the rich females complaining, those who are on VERY good salaries!

Is there not more merit in fighting the corner for those poor sods on the minimum wage and zero hour contracts, they are working the asses off but getting no- where. These are the people who deserve our support and help, these are the REAL poor people of our country. These are the poor sods who are employed by people who couldn’t give a shit about what happens to that person or their family if they get zero hours.

  • So before we start worrying about how much women earn over a lifetime after they have made their choices, lets look after those people who have jobs that do not allow them to make choices and who do not have the luxury of having paid sick leave never mind having long maternity leave!

 

  • What will they earn over their life time- irrespective of their gender? It’s guaranteed that it is a damned site less than those who are twittering on about some imaginary ‘gender pay gap’

 

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Equal Pay for Equal work – It Seems a Fair Deal!

There is no show without Punch!!

Well over the last week I have read the newspapers, listened to the daily news reports and watched some topical discussions on TV and then I have read some of the headlines in the internet home page and I have to ask

Why does everyone want to be a victim??

No one seems capable of making a decision and living with the consequences, oh no! They must make out they are the victim of someone else’s behaviour/ attitude/ beliefs! Honestly I am sick to death of hearing and seeing all this bleeding hearts and spleen venting that’s going on – much of it in the celebrity world is just about grandstanding. Why do we see so much crap about who has split up with who, who has screwed who and who’s going out with who? Does it matter to anyone but the people involved – No, does it give another opening to become a victim and try to gain public support YES!

So who are the people who seem to want to be victims

Anyone who has a shade of skin darker than a pasty pale pinky/white.

Single mothers.

Illegal Immigrants.

If you have a mental illness

Anyone who is non christian

If you are anywhere on the LGBT scale

If you are female.

If you are a celebrity.

For some strange reason it is very fashionable to put yourself into a victim category then you do not have to be responsible for your own decisions/ actions.

Please for god’s sake (and I really do not care who your god is) can we all stop this constant whining and self pity, there are people in this world who really are suffering and your constant whinging and victim claiming is an insult to the suffering these people go through. I feel I am living in a world of would be Peter Pan’s- people who claim to be victims because then they do not have to do the grown up thing and take responsibility.

It is all very much a case of ‘no show without Punch’

There is no show without Punch!!

Giving a clear insight into the problem – I don’t think so!!

Today I read an article from the Huffington Post, my attention having been grabbed by the dramatic headline

Patronised, Talked Down To And Harassed: Parliament’s Boys’ Club Culture Laid Bare

Now there’s an eye catching headline!

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But lets look at the evidence it’s based on:-

208 females in houses of parliament were asked to complete a survey about bullying/ sexual harassment etc 40 responses given(19.2%),

this might suggest that 168 of them (80.8%) did not think it an issue.

3 in 10 of the respondents said they had been sexually harassed that actually = 12 people.

Just over half experienced bullying = 20 people, it is unclear if those subjected to sexual harassment are also in the numbers of those subjected to alleged bullying.

40% of the 40 respondents =16 said they had either received an complaint or lodged a complaint about harassment/ bullying  so this includes those who were alleged victims-

Over half of the respondents said the situation in parliament was worse than in previous jobs, there is no actual number given so this could be anything from 50.1% and is therefore to ambiguous to have significant meaning.

Finally 57.5% of the 40 respondents = 23 people felt it was harder to get things done in parliament if you were a woman.

Whilst any kind of harassment is wrong, only the Huffington post could come up with this dramatic headline based on 19.2% of the female population of parliament. In reality if we assume those who did not respond were not victims then it means less than 10% of the females in parliament said they were subject to inappropriate behaviour.

Ahhh I hear you cry, you cannot assume that those who did not respond had never been subjected to inappropriate behaviour and you are of course right; but equally you cannot assume they have been victims of this uninvited behaviour, either way it does not support the dramatic and misleading nature of the news report.

The fact is that there are few sad souls around like me who will actually look at the figures in more  detail, so they will have read the piece and been left with the (I suggest intended) impression that the house of parliament is a seething mass of hormone driven out of control males. I think the results probably reflect behaviour in other organisations, not that I am for one minute suggesting this is O.K.

Another thing to consider is whether or not the behaviour was from one or more individuals and was the bullying from males/ females or both, as we know both are capable of these behaviours. The truth is that on closer scrutiny this report does not support the headline suggestion of parliament having a ‘boys club culture’.

Would a more appropriate headline be

Twenty  of the 208 females in parliament report being bullied and 12 report having been sexually harassed.

But would that have grabbed as much attention?

No, probably not, however it would have been accurate so it begs the question

‘Does the Huffington Post want to be taken seriously or not’? If it does it needs to hugely improve the quality of its reporting, currently I think it deserves to be awarded first place in the toilet tissue holder!!

I expect the media to take a responsible approach to their  job of keeping the public informed, I don’t expect these so called journalists to keep spewing forth this inaccurate shit. This is an insult to serious and reliable journalism.

Read the article and decide for yourself

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Giving a clear insight into the problem – I don’t think so!!

Good for you Jimmy Tarbuck!!

Well done Jimmy Tarbuck!!!

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At last it seems that the male species is beginning to respond to this constant vilification of men.

Yes Mr Tarbuck is quite right the rules should apply to everyone!!

Are all men guilty of sexual harassment or sexual abuse?

Are these accusations justified??

Is Jimmy going to be left to stand up for justice on his own?

Are men going to continue to take these accusations and this tongue lashing without an attempt to defend themselves!!

Or are they going to get behind Jimmy and defend themselves??

To ignore what is being said is to confirm it’s accuracy.

Is abuse in all it’s forms a male characteristic only, and are women the innocent victims of such behaviour

OR

Is this more a case of social boundaries have fallen to such a degrading low that it is time to redefine the rules and boundaries for people of all sexualities?

 

Discuss!

Good for you Jimmy Tarbuck!!

This witch hunt has to stop!!

Today I find myself getting increasingly frustrated by people alleging to be feminists – are they really feminists?

Do they really have the interests of women in general in mind?

Is this really about fair play and equality.

I bloody well don’t think so!!!!

We are currently facing a huge number of claims of historic sexual abuse from both men and women so why is it that the women seem to think it’s all about them when it should be about the sexual behaviour of everyone. I’m not seeing the male victims all clamoring for inclusion, in fact I’m not seeing much support for the male victims at all.  You don’t get the same media coverage,  could that be because it is now mainly female journalists???

NOW THERE’S A THOUGHT!!

We have females who have chosen the ‘ladette’ world but only on their terms i.e  I will go out and get drink and wear almost no clothing, I will lose control of my ability to make sensible judgements and decisions then when I don’t like the consequences, I will blame someone else because it certainly couldn’t be my fault.

As was recently stated by a celeb – when women said they wanted equality no-one was expecting them to behave in an immoral and ladette fashion, but having chosen to do that no-one was expecting them to claim it was the fault of everyone else.

Has no – one watched the reality TV program following the police on duty at weekend in a city centre? If you haven’t then you should, it’s an education in just what today’s feminism is getting women

It is called taking responsibility for your own decisions – if some guy goes out gets drunk and makes some crass decision I don’t see everyone saying “well he was drunk, someone should have stopped him” No he’s told ‘ Sorry mate, you chose to drink, now you have to pay the consequences’.

The bottom line is that everyone should behave in a sexually respectful manner towards others irrespective of their sexuality, and as adults everyone has responsibility for their own decisions. Damn it everyone should be respectful in All of their behaviour.

For the many female celebs who are ALL now claiming to have been assaulted – I DON’T THINK SO!! If things are so depraved in your workplace then why have you still encouraged your OWN children to join this toxic and clearly perverted world?

And what gives you the right to hound and victimise other female celebs who claim they were unaware of this behaviour. You do not know what they saw or did not see.

For those of you who are trying to equate having someone touch your bottom or back to the rape of one of your peers SHAME ON YOU!! You are a bigger insult to the seriously assaulted person than if you had just kept quiet. All of this ‘#me too’ stuff smacks of ‘I want to be part of this and if I just show this I can be a part of it without ever having to explain what NEVER happened’!!

So why am I having this rant – because now it is about sacking people from their job simply because they attended the Dorchester event – NOT because they did something wrong! Namely the vice principle of a university, I don’t know this individual, I am responding to a news report where a feminist student is demanding he is sacked-

NO the guy has done nothing wrong!

So does this mean that if I go to a friends wedding and the best man starts to behave inappropriately I should be sacked for being there? Because that’s where this is going.

NO, I’m sorry this is completely wrong, this whole business is getting completely out of hand and reminds me of the allegations of witchcraft that tore families apart in the early 1990’s, when social workers snatched a huge number of children from their beds in the middle of the night on some flimsy, and in many cases malicious allegation, but with no real evidence.

It is also reminiscent of the situation when other children were removed from parents who were accused of sexual assault, based on the say so of one doctors flawed method of medical evidence.

The children and the families in these circumstances were never shown any evidence and many never got their children back DESPITE them being proven innocent – because the state had given the children to adoptive parents!

HAVE WE LEARNED NOTHING? WE HAVE A JUDICIAL SYSTEM FOR A GOOD REASON, IN THIS COUNTRY YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY

So do stop this complete and utter nonsense IF someone has done something wrong then the law says they should go through a just process where the evidence should be presented and they should have the opportunity to defend themselves. Employment law demands the same thing. And let’s be honest if it was any of us we would be looking at industrial tribunals for unfair dismissal.

WELL I’VE GOT NEWS FOR YOU ALL THE LAW IS THERE FOR EVERYONE NOT JUST THOSE OF US IN THE LOWER JOB ROLES OF SOCIETY.

The young women who were groped at the Dorchester SHOULD press charges against the perpetrators, this should not all be dealt with on the say so of one undercover journalist who admits she was not personally subject to any of the serious abuse.

So to all the feminists out there

Stop hounding people out of their jobs just because they are male, you would not want that to happen if it were females involved. We should be investigating ALL allegations properly. As recent legal cases have shown not ALL allegations are true!

Stop trying to further your cause by demanding scalps for everything; you lose your own credibility, get out there and find the evidence, then go through the proper channels.

To the media –

You need to remember you are there to inform us of what is going on not to twist everything to suit your own agenda. You are supposed to give a fair and balanced report – so why do we not have the male journalists following the all women parties/ LGBT parties? You are partly responsible, as over the years you have paid millions to women only to willing to reveal their sexual behaviour for a price.

You are happy to print pictures and hound celebs, you are also happy to print/ report whatever gets the cash in.

My message to you is – remember hacking phones!!

To ALL the petition signers-

To those who sign these pathetic and completely falsified petitions – why don’t I set one up to have some random shop assistant/ teacher /nurse removed  from their job because I don’t like them or better still just because I can, after all I can put any reason I like on the petition, I don’t actually have to prove it happened to get you all to sign it!! Think about it – signed any petitions recently? Did you see or check the evidence before you signed??

To the women out there

Can you in all honesty say that the current climate being applied to all men is fair? What happens when your husband/ partner/ father/ brother is sacked on the say so of a female who was then not expected to provide evidence because the affected man will not be getting the chance to defend himself.

Let’s not all do a Hilary Clinton  -when it affects her husband the woman is basically a tart who was not worth the air she breathed, but when it affects other men the women have been abused. Now there’s a double standard from someone claiming to support the feminist  cause and rights of women, but hey, like the press she is using it to try to further her own agenda.

See Jan 26 2018 New York Times – politics section

And finally to the men –

‘Wake up and smell the coffee’ – you should be out there demanding the same equality the women want, you should be defending your rights instead of simply buckling under.  Just going along with this whole business is no longer an option.

Challenge the bad behaviour of your peers and press charges on females who sexually assault you – has any female  put their hand on your knee/ touched your bum/back lately uninvited??

Anyone see Tom Cruise on Graham Norton show where Rebecca Ferguson couldn’t keep her hands of his leg, haven’t heard any outcry, but then neither should we. But if it had been the other way around – well can you imagine what the press would have to say ????

 

 

 

 

 

 

This witch hunt has to stop!!

All women want is fairness, equality, less sexism, no misogyny and a bit more respect

Well it would be fair to say the ladies have been grabbing the headlines this week as they demand more respect, fairness, equality, less sexism and the end of misogyny!!

Whoopee!!!

I can’t see anything wrong with that, after all aren’t the first 3 points a legal entitlement under the Human Rights Act???

Should we be applauding these ladies who are standing up for their rights and who are banding together in sisterhood, surely they deserve a huge amount of credit as they have raised the public awareness of the more seedy behaviour of their male counterparts,

or

Should we be defending those on the receiving end, those men who have lost their jobs/reputations/ income/ social standing based on allegations rather than the facts from any investigation?

Is there really any room to sympathise with these tawdry self serving, clearly ‘guilty’ males; after all many of these women have spent years being disbelieved isn’t it time the men found out what that is like?

Are women really demanding too much or are their demands not only reasonable but highly desirable? Well lets look at what they are asking for

Fairness in all aspects of life.

To be treated with respect.

To be able to walk about in public at any time of the day with next to no clothes on.

To be able to stand in front of the TV cameras in see through clothes without anyone looking at their body or commenting on it.

To get rid of the pay gap.

To be free from unwanted sexual remarks being directed at them.

Not to be sexually harassed.

To be spoken to in appropriate terms

To have flexible working so they can fit it around home life.

To be able to get as drunk as they wish without being at risk of being abused or assualted

To say they do not want sexual activity to continue and be listened to.

To make physical contact with men as and when they choose.

Not to be stalked/ hit.

They want the right to anonymity if they have reported a rape.

Well with the exception of the lack of clothing or the issues around see through clothing (which I agree might just be an issue for me), they don’t seem to want anything outrageous. Obviously this is not an exhaustive list so lets just look at some of the things the desire for equality, respect and fairness might include, because lets be honest these women are only asking to be treated in the same way they would treat others, and why should men have greater advantages?

So let’s continue

They want to be able to

Abuse / hit their male partners without it being seen as unacceptable and without it affecting their job/ social standing/ income.

Although they could share maternity leave with their partner – no they want the maternity leave AND the promotion.

They want to be able to go on a girls night out and use foul language directed at anyone within earshot.

They want to be able to have a girls night out where they can grope young men or make personal and sexual comments about them.

They want to be automatically seen as the preferred parent in cases of divorce and child custody.

They want the right to decide when to get pregnant without consulting the prospective father and then

They want the right to have the father pay maintenance for the next 18yrs if they do not share the parenting.

They want the right to decide to have an abortion or not, after all it is their body.

They want men to be dressed when in public areas.

They want the right to anonymity when they  falsely say they have been raped.

Well the list could go on and include both the acceptable things and the questionable things women want, but if women are genuinely seeking to have equality, fairness and respect they need to get off the moral high ground because they are not all innocent just as not all men are guilty.

Anyone compared the behaviour of a hen night with the reported behaviour at the Dorchester hotel event? If you did you might be able to find quite a lot of similarities.

I wonder was this more about the fact that this was rich men having a men’s night out rather than the behaviour, all of which you could find being presented by all sexes at any bar, in any city on any Saturday night. It doesn’t make it right but it equally doesn’t make it a ‘male only’ issue

    Ladies don’t forget it is a two way street.

All women want is fairness, equality, less sexism, no misogyny and a bit more respect

In the year ahead women can do SO much better!!

So I thought I would follow a time honored tradition and reflect on the past years public arena events, well why not after all the climate of today is all about hanging your dirty washing out in public!!

I suppose we could start by saying it has been the usual sleaze in the headlines and in social media; who can we have a go at next? Who is to be the next condemned person with no apparent real crime? Who simply doesn’t know how to dress properly/ behave properly? Who has the wrong body shape, skin colour, religion, politics,culture or social class and more importantly WHO has taken it upon themselves to make these socially important decisions about what the rest of us should be doing, thinking and taking action about? But remember you can only do this in a way that pleases these perfect individuals who have decided what we lesser beings are supposed to be doing in the first place. So where to start, well in this post I thought I would look at the controversial rise of women against abuse.

So, congratulations to all those women have used the latter part of the year to grab the public arena and expose the abuse they have suffered over the years and there is absolutely no disagreement from most quarters that this abuse is outrageous and completely unacceptable. These revelations do however raise other interesting questions of moral conscience and this time it is about the women themselves and their role in the perpetuation of this abusive behaviour, such as ‘how could you sit back and watch other young actresses meet the same fate from the same disgustingly behaved individuals, especially knowing some of these women were friends/ relatives of you the abused person’? Why on earth would anyone in their right mind go to someones hotel room and sit on the bed to discuss their future career (at 16yrs my parents had made it clear that this was no place for any form of innocent liaison)- how much did you want the career, even if you did not expect the price to be so high? So lets be honest about your part in your abuse – not that you deserved the abuse but did you leave yourself open to the risk of this treatment? Before you get on your righteously indignant podium, think about is another way, I mean I should be able to go out and leave my valuables safely at home, but if I get robbed because I did not cover all security bases then I contributed to being robbed. Now whilst that is not morally right it is a fact, and the same principle applies in many other situations including abuse

And what about the support teams to these abusive individuals – was it that you were prepared to turn a blind eye for years as long as you kept your job and/ were paid handsomely to keep quiet, is that why you were complicit in enabling these assaults to take place, because lets be honest you certainly were not naively innocent? I feel that whilst we rightly condemn the behaviour of these men and accept that they alone were responsible for their behaviour, if this type of abuse is to stop there is a need for everyone to acknowledge their role in enabling it to take place and that means everyone with the slightest link whatever their gender/ role, be they victim, bystander or perpetrator.

When looking at how abuse is facilitated I feel another area we need to review is that of who creates the public image of these celebrities. Lets be honest we have celebrities who gain their status because they have a talent, then there are those who have it bestowed upon them whether or not they want it, simply because they are related to a celebrity. Of course we also have those who actually don’t have a talent but are prepared to do anything to get into the public arena for example behaving badly on programs such celebrity big brother/ the Jeremy Kyle show.

It has to be said that we the general public play a big part in that development, we follow the badly behaved and the more badly behaved people are, the better; what does that tell us about ourselves? Well I would venture to suggest it tells us what bully’s we are and how in reality much though we have this ‘let’s care about each other veneer’ really there are things in which we are self serving and we enjoy seeing the discomfort and distress of others; we do of course console ourselves with the thought that’ well they are getting a load of money for this suffering’ and they volunteered themselves. Perhaps we should be thinking more about should we even be watching this type of ‘entertainment’,  perhaps we need to ask ourselves if that’s why the abuse in the entertainment world and other areas of life perpetuates – because we subconsciously think -‘ it’s OK if they get paid loads of money’.

Then we have the image makers, those who make a fortune persuading celebrities it is in their interests to wear as little as possible in public and to pay a fortune for it! It seems to me the less fabric their is in an outfit these days the more expensive it is. These people are just as abusive, tell me when we last saw the creators of these ‘daring’ outfits actually wearing one themselves – you will struggle hard to find one, also how many of these image makers are men deciding how women should dress. Why do we accept that women are dressed to sell sex but the guys continue to turn up looking good in the tux / suit. Let’s be honest you don’t see the male singers gyrating on stage and almost naked and yet not only do they sell songs, attract mass following most of them last much longer than the women. You watch a new female star develop on stage and before you know it she’s gone from ‘the girl next door look’ to the tart released from the boudoir!! If you need to expose yourself to sell your record it doesn’t say much about the song. So what’s the deal, think about it, is it ‘Hey great song, you’ve got a great future but you’ll need to get your kit off if you really want to be big in the music industry’?

The nearest you get for the guys is this pointless need to grab their own crotch as part of their dance/ to expose their chests. But the women – no they have to simulate sex and almost fully expose themselves in the sad belief that this is glamorous – it isn’t its abuse by your image makers, ask yourself when you agreed to get on stage minus your kit!! Look at some of the music videos without listening to the music, just turn the volume down and watch them then ask yourself would you be happy to watch this in mixed company/ with your parents/ children or people you barely knew if there was no volume, having asked many young people this very question I can tell you the most likely answer is no because it looks more like a porn video when you take out the song. Take a lead from Adele – she looks great and she has a great voice but the other thing she still has is HER KIT ON!!

So who is responsible for the abuse that takes place in the world of entertainment – well I guess we all have a role to play from the pushy mothers who want their child on the stage or who want their child in modeling to the existing celebs who having suffered so much abuse are ‘happy’ to send their children down the same career path, it saddens me so much to see the offspring of celebs walking down the catwalk – think of the risks of abuse that you know about let alone the damage you are doing to them in the way they look at their image and body. What values are you instilling in them? It’s sad that we don’t see the kids of celebs who have non entertainment world careers, your world has become so incestuous it is unhealthy.

Anyway I digress, but food for thought all the same. So where do we go from here on the issues of abuse of women? What steps should we be taking to protect individuals? Well lets start by women accepting  responsibility for making their own crass decisions, women have argued for many years that they are capable of making their own decisions, now they need to show they are capable of living with the consequences of those decisions – that doesn’t make it right but it’s what being independent and grown up is all about.

Today’s women have many advantages over women in previous years, they are more healthy, better educated, more liberated, more financially independent, more vocal and more confident than the women before them but still they have many of the same issues. Women are in many ways their own worst enemy because they are ‘first class bitches’! It is mainly women in the social media who criticise women about how they look – who is it who writes the fashion fails and successes of the week – women! Who gives a shit, if the women were happy wearing the clothes what business is it of anyone else.What gives these females the power to condemn someone for their choice of clothing?

It is women who have the most to say about how other women should conduct their relationships and who they should have a relationship with. What is the gender of the people writing about who was seen in the company of who and what that might mean for their marriage/ relationship – these women used to be called shit stirrers and marriage wreckers,  but now they are seen a ‘ professional journalists’ I don’t think so, they are still shit stirrers and marriage wreckers only now the media pays them. They need to ask themselves how responsible they are for the success or failure of many relationships they have ‘reported’ on and how much of their report is based on personal views, jealousy and lining their own pockets, lets be honest you don’t see apologies when they get it wrong.

It is women who take it upon themselves to make other women feel guilty or inadequate  about how they raise their children- look at things such as mumsnet – since when did they become the authority on child rearing? What gives them the right to damn the child rearing decisions of others? Are they the special few who have their children delivered with the instruction manual? Frankly I don’t see what is sooooo great about seeing pregnant celebs nearly naked and showing the bump, like other pregnant women when celebs get pregnant they will get a bump and they will get fat and sick and feel awful some days so perhaps the average female might appreciate seeing them in that state. For heavens sake leave people to have some shred of privacy and decency. Once again it is invariably women who get onto this gossip bandwagon.

On TV and in the public arena we have moved into this touchy feely press and discussion programs – not because we really want to be touchy feely but because we can get people crying on TV – ask yourself where do you go when you cry? Most people have a private place they cry in so why do we now have female news reporters asking inane questions such as asking bomb survivors how they feel – how the hell do you think they feel!! In addition women reporters feel compelled to use their public arena to voice THEIR opinion – NO we just want the facts, we can make our own judgements.

So ladies,  if women want to be taken seriously then perhaps they should be seen to be focusing on the important things in life and not the crap you keep churning out as females. Should they really be worried about the shape of their eyebrows or should they be checking out why homeless young women cannot get sanitary products when they need them?? Should they be getting into serous degrees rather than all these soft social policy degrees that actually do not lead to a career

So steps for 2018 –

Stop blaming men,believe me they have to take responsibility for their own actions to

Stop having transgender women deciding women’s issues, their needs, experiences and issues are different. All the issues around LGBT etc should have an arena of their own. Transgender females deciding women’s issues smacks of the Trojan horse approach.

Stop the bitching about other women, leave other women to get on with their lives and accept their own responsibilities so if that’s how you earn your living you are one of the abusers and need to get yourself a ‘proper’ job

Refocus on what women can seriously offer the world believe me there is a lot, but women need to stop using their sexuality when they think it will be to their advantage and then complain that men only see them as sexual beings when it is not to their advantage. Sort out the sexuality thing for women and the advancement of women’s causes with progress rapidly.

I believe women are letting themselves down, if they want respect they need to stop hanging their dirty washing out, stop exposing themselves for the gratification of others and get some self respect and decency back into the world of women.

Don’t blame the men for accepting everything you have offered- you gave them all the opportunities they wanted and you gave them control. No we don’t live in a misogynistic world we live in a world where women continue too use their body to get what they want and their mouths to put down and decry other women. Women remain manipulative, if they are to progress men must change they way they treat women but women must be more consistent and less manipulative – used to be called ‘womenly wiles’

Men have some serious issues to address but if as women you do not reflect on your own shortcomings nothing will change.

2018 IS NOW UNDERWAY, LETS SEE IT BE THE YEAR WHERE WE MAKE A FAIR AND BALANCED APPROACH TO EQUALITY OF THE GENDERS

In the year ahead women can do SO much better!!