All women want is fairness, equality, less sexism, no misogyny and a bit more respect

Well it would be fair to say the ladies have been grabbing the headlines this week as they demand more respect, fairness, equality, less sexism and the end of misogyny!!

Whoopee!!!

I can’t see anything wrong with that, after all aren’t the first 3 points a legal entitlement under the Human Rights Act???

Should we be applauding these ladies who are standing up for their rights and who are banding together in sisterhood, surely they deserve a huge amount of credit as they have raised the public awareness of the more seedy behaviour of their male counterparts,

or

Should we be defending those on the receiving end, those men who have lost their jobs/reputations/ income/ social standing based on allegations rather than the facts from any investigation?

Is there really any room to sympathise with these tawdry self serving, clearly ‘guilty’ males; after all many of these women have spent years being disbelieved isn’t it time the men found out what that is like?

Are women really demanding too much or are their demands not only reasonable but highly desirable? Well lets look at what they are asking for

Fairness in all aspects of life.

To be treated with respect.

To be able to walk about in public at any time of the day with next to no clothes on.

To be able to stand in front of the TV cameras in see through clothes without anyone looking at their body or commenting on it.

To get rid of the pay gap.

To be free from unwanted sexual remarks being directed at them.

Not to be sexually harassed.

To be spoken to in appropriate terms

To have flexible working so they can fit it around home life.

To be able to get as drunk as they wish without being at risk of being abused or assualted

To say they do not want sexual activity to continue and be listened to.

To make physical contact with men as and when they choose.

Not to be stalked/ hit.

They want the right to anonymity if they have reported a rape.

Well with the exception of the lack of clothing or the issues around see through clothing (which I agree might just be an issue for me), they don’t seem to want anything outrageous. Obviously this is not an exhaustive list so lets just look at some of the things the desire for equality, respect and fairness might include, because lets be honest these women are only asking to be treated in the same way they would treat others, and why should men have greater advantages?

So let’s continue

They want to be able to

Abuse / hit their male partners without it being seen as unacceptable and without it affecting their job/ social standing/ income.

Although they could share maternity leave with their partner – no they want the maternity leave AND the promotion.

They want to be able to go on a girls night out and use foul language directed at anyone within earshot.

They want to be able to have a girls night out where they can grope young men or make personal and sexual comments about them.

They want to be automatically seen as the preferred parent in cases of divorce and child custody.

They want the right to decide when to get pregnant without consulting the prospective father and then

They want the right to have the father pay maintenance for the next 18yrs if they do not share the parenting.

They want the right to decide to have an abortion or not, after all it is their body.

They want men to be dressed when in public areas.

They want the right to anonymity when they  falsely say they have been raped.

Well the list could go on and include both the acceptable things and the questionable things women want, but if women are genuinely seeking to have equality, fairness and respect they need to get off the moral high ground because they are not all innocent just as not all men are guilty.

Anyone compared the behaviour of a hen night with the reported behaviour at the Dorchester hotel event? If you did you might be able to find quite a lot of similarities.

I wonder was this more about the fact that this was rich men having a men’s night out rather than the behaviour, all of which you could find being presented by all sexes at any bar, in any city on any Saturday night. It doesn’t make it right but it equally doesn’t make it a ‘male only’ issue

    Ladies don’t forget it is a two way street.

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All women want is fairness, equality, less sexism, no misogyny and a bit more respect

Is This a Social Experiment?

So I got up this morning and completed my usual ablutions then after dressing I had a hearty breakfast of a banana and a yogurt – so far so good. I checked the emails on the dreaded machine and listened to the local and national news as I sipped my morning mug of tea. A normal start to the day for me.

As I listened to the TV my interest was increased by the presence of the musician Professor Green, he talking about the paucity of opportunity for young white working class males and their falling levels of aspiration when it suddenly occurred to me, we have stopped talking about ‘the working class’, ‘the middle class’ and ‘the upper class’ and instead for some reason have turned on ourselves by redefining everything by gender, sexuality, race, culture and economic situation and as a consequence we have fragmented out society even further which has only had the result of weakening the position of the working class and reducing the opportunities for everyone. We have reached a stage where you have to have been seen as being a member of a ‘disadvantaged group’ to be given any chance in life, in other words we have become so self centred that we are at risk of losing the greater benefits of operating as a bigger group – as a community – as one of a large social group irrespective of our differences.

Surely it is time to move on and stop trying to gain benefits from social history’s affect on one particular social group. By this I mean we need to live in today’s world and look to securing the future instead of using perceived/ real historical wrongs to try to gain some advantage for our social group. Lets be honest none of us were there, times were different, social behaviour and norms were different, education and understanding were different and heaven forfend that any of us should suggest it, but the truth is always tainted by the bias of the storyteller. In other words there is always more than 2 sides to a story and irrespective of how many sides you identify there will always need to be the addition of ‘the truth’ – a concept we like to talk about and each feel we are exceptionally good at maintaining but in fact we are none of us as truthful as we like to think, everyone of us irrespective of who we are only ever tells the truth from our own perspective.

There are so many examples of ‘apparent truth’, we have the Scottish dislike of the English based on the belief that Scotland was invaded by the English, however when you research this you find a different background, and yet here we are today where some shops in Scotland will sell every world football team shirt EXCEPT and English one – WHY??

Then there are the lives still being affected by the North / South Irish history, surely there is a need to bury history there as well. All it is doing is damaging today’s communities, and you can guarantee half the stories told are embellished to the advantage of the storytellers agenda. Do people really want their great grandchildren to still be dying for something that happened long before they were born and is continuing to have an impact simply because people cannot bury the hatchets, but instead insist on reopening old wounds. Burying the hatchet is not saying it doesn’t matter or it didn’t happen it is simply saying ‘whether it happened or not I’m not going to let it continue to affect today’s community and life’. Whilst people continue to scratch the injuries they will fester and that will serve no positive purpose but to continually generate divisions and frictions. Look at the people who are usually at the front leadership of these movements, once they get in power then the ’cause’ is stopped, it is no longer important – food for thought and I like to give lots of that.

We talk about the horrors of black slavery and lets be honest it was horrendous, it was barbaric but it was not the actions of the entire non black community and it definitely was not down to the decisions of today’s society, so is there really a need for today’s society to apologise for the fact it happened and to tear down statues? Surely we should be looking at slavery as a whole and not just the slavery of one ethnic group. Nobody can deny that Africans were the greatest numbers of slaves transported across the globe but they were not the only slaves, there were thousands of white /Asian/ eastern slaves transported across the world and like Africans their own social groups were party to their enslavement.

Slavery affected many people, many were kept as slaves in their own country, look at the indigenous peoples of places such as Australia/ USA/ Canada, whilst others were transported – again it gets down to do we continue to plough our energy into getting apologies about our slavery history or dare I suggest it, do we look at our past experiences/ behaviour and plough our energy into preventing slavery happening today.

Yes for all the noise about the past actions of society slavery still exists in EVERY ethnic group. It could be the businessman of whatever ethnicity who pays poor wages and conditions to the individuals/family units from a whole range of ethnicities who enslave children and young people for sexual gain, or domestic / economic gain and I am talking world wide, this is not a concept/ practice peculiar to any one race, gender, sexuality, culture, country /economic group. Surely the greatest apology we can make for ALL previous slavery is to root it out and stop it happening today and to do that once again it gets back to working as a community not fragmenting the issue. Our predecessors I am sure would feel much more at rest if we stopped slavery instead of tearing down someones statue.

Anyway enough for now, just a few points for consideration, surely it is time to move on!!          

Is This a Social Experiment?

Have I missed something??

Has there been another election since Mrs Mays impoverished result last year?? If so when did it happen and why didn’t I as a voting member of the public know??

Have we had another referendum on BREXIT?? Again I have to ask when did this happen and why was I not given a vote??

Is Mr Barnier negotiating BREXIT with the government or every other person who wants a say, because if so why have I not been invited?? Believe me I would have a few things to say particularly about his arrogance which for any BREXITEERS will do nothing to warm people towards Europe, instead it is more likely to rightly/ wrongly confirm their beliefs.

When did Mr Barnier start to say what is best for our country, isn’t this the very reason many people voted to leave because they felt Europe was interfering in UK policies/ laws etc?? Why are we continuing to give this man the upperhand in any negotiations?? By doing so are we not feeding the belief that Europe is running this country?? And I see Mr Macron is flexing his oral muscles again demanding that we increase the number of refugees we take from Calais. I have to ask why are these people deliberately trying to alienate the British people because their behaviour is hardly going to change the minds of BREXITEERS or encourage others to want to stay. In addition Mr Macron needs to check up the meaning of child and refugee, he may find he needs to be using term such as young adult and economic migrants.

If we are ‘all in this together then why do I feel that I am in a country being usurped by the very people who claim to have out best interests at heart?

Surely whatever your position, it is now time for everyone to stick together and get the best deal for the UK instead of alienating potential foreign interest and trying to undermine current BREXIT negotiations.

Everyone is rattling on about Donald Trump, frankly I am fed up of hearing about the guy, he is a transient person, by the time Brexit is completed (given current time scales) the USA will be voting for a new president. Let’s be honest he is NOT our president, he was the Americans choice – get over it, and with regards to his visit to this country I can only say we have entertained worse in our time and we need to look beyond the person to the purpose. However you have to give Mr Trump some credit, if nothing else he has certainly increased the American people’s interest in politics. Also given their choices what were they to do? Continue to hand power to the corrupt elite of USA because the power of the USA is held by a minority group of families not the people – even the Obama’s were closely linked to the Kennedy’s, so hopefully if nothing else we will see new families coming to the White house in the future and today’s young American might think there is a chance they could be president, but hey that’s a different issue.

I feel Gina Miller made an excellent point on question time last week when she suggested  our politicians did not seem to know much about how to negotiating deals?? You cannot afford to disclose all your cards in the opening gambit, god help this bunch if they ever get into a game of Poker!

Has London become an independent state with its own prime minister in the form of Mr Khan? – I thought he was only the Mayor for the city of London, who is he to try to determine who visits our country? He needs to be aware the UK exists beyond the city of London. The lack of awareness that the UK is not all about London is a serious issue for those who live outside the hallowed area. It is NOT for Londoners to decide who visits our country a point Mr Khan would do well to take note of if he is aiming to work for the UK as a whole.

Let’s be honest WE the BRITISH people from the ENTIRE UK bailed out the banks and our thanks – to expect us to help bail them out with Corillion and to threaten to leave the UK if BREXIT goes through. Well thanks for that guys, you really make me feel appreciated as I continue to try to live on what was probably about one twentieth of your annual bonus!! You’ve got a bloody nerve!!

What I really want to know is what is the approach each party is taking, I apologise if that makes me seem completely thick but my understanding is as follows

Conservatives claim to be going for Brexit whatever the outcome – then we see these turkeys going off to have backroom chats with Mr Barnier, so what’s really going on there?? Is this called ‘you took my job away so now I’m not happy with you’? Well looking at the Corillion situation it looks as though someone’s job needs to be looked at – oh but I’m forgetting we have done that by looking at the lowest common denominator – the brickie, plasterer, cleaner etc

Labour – well I believe they intend to carry through with some form of BREXIT but seem incapable/ unable/ unwilling to explain what form their BREXIT would have, although be sure it will include continued immigration and membership of the single market – so is it BREXIT or not?? Time to put your cards on the table chaps, or are you more interested in making the UK a socialist state and if so I would like to know of an example where this has been a good thing for THE PEOPLE, I agree that in common with every other form of politics the leaders always do well out of it, but what about us pawns on the board of life, we are usually worse off under a socialist strategy so what will make it different this time??? You are already trying to make sure Mr Corbyn can only be replaced by a socialist – now that hardly bodes well does it??

To be fair to the Lib Dems they have at least said categorically that they do not want to leave Europe and will have another referendum – at least they have pinned their colours to the mast rightly or wrongly, depends on your point of view.

Plaid Cymru – well they want another referendum and want to stay in Europe – an interesting stance since the majority of Wales said leave. So who are they actually representing.

SNP – want to stay within Europe – again interesting since when they were campaigning for independence they were quite happy to give up membership to get independence, then try to get separate membership but with Europe telling them no chance, that did not deter their campaign, so what’s changed there? What is their real agenda?

The greens have had some strange approaches which shouldn’t surprise us after their former leader announced all white women should only be allowed to have sex with men of colour as that would eventually get rid of racism – a strange view given that racism is not all about skin colour. So what do they really want?

DUP – they claim to be supporting the BREXIT agenda through their paid for alliance to the conservatives, but are they really?? Or is there too much history there for that to be a productive alliance, they certainly like to be seen to be making the conservatives squirm before they give their support – not a helpful approach, so what do they really want??

Sinn Fein – Now what is their agenda for Southern Ireland?? Neither them or DUP should be using this crucial negotiation to determine what happens to the UK as an excuse to further their own Nth/ Sth Irish agenda, and perhaps the Southern Irish government needs to think back a few years and ask themselves who financially bailed them out when they were in trouble with the Euro?? It certainly wasn’t Europe. So again we don’t really know what their agenda is.

Now call me simple minded I really don’t care, but I do care about the future of this country and take this opportunity to remind all mp’s you are being paid to represent the people of this great country not to grind your own axes, looking at the summaries above, god forbid,  you really do not give out much hope for any of us

So  Have I missed another vote on the future of this county and if so why and when was it??   

Have I missed something??

Here we go again – learning to live with democracy

Can’t believe the year is only into day 2 and already the anti- Brexiteers ( in the form of Elouise Todd) are rattling their sabres and gnashing their teeth. I thought they would have learned what a democracy is by now, but I should have known better after all these are the same people who grew up being told there were no losers at sports day and living in the age of immediate gratification. And before you all start assuming which side of the argument my loyalties are with that is entirely irrelevant this is about the need to preserve our democracy, a democracy that has served this country well over the years. You only have to look at what is happening in countries where there is no democracy to see where we could end up if we continue this nonsense.

We don’t have much to choose from really, we have the rich conservatives who invariably have to save us from the wild extravagances of the labour party but then use them as the excuse to continue to squeeze the population dry – they should look around them and see the common factor in worlds areas of insurgence is the evidence of huge disparity between the ‘haves’ and the ‘have nots’, there is only so much people will put up with.There needs to be a rebirth of philanthropy among our wealthy citizens instead of the current ‘ I’m alright Jack attitude’.

As an alternative we have the so called labour party who have got us into so much debt in the first place – yes Tony Blair I am talking about you and your mob, you people who like to pretend you are not the wealthy elite whilst your wife and sons sweep the country buying up all the cheaper properties so that you can do them up and ask extortionate rents – because you fear being poor!!   The same labour party now headed up by a socialist leader pretending he is the man of the people, yet he is also one of the elite wealthy – he doesn’t mention that much. And his promises of a better future all based on vague innuendo and no substance. But all credit to him he is a great campaigner especially as he pretends he is going to give the young free university education. This is the same man who is promoting a political ideology which has been shown over time to produce even more elite wealthy individuals in government who look after themselves at the expense of the rest of us; we can already see the embers of that fire glowing as he talks about ensuring he can only be replaced by another socialist leader. I defy anyone to name me a socialist country where there is not an elite wealthy political class and where there is still a democracy.

Then there are all the other parties and essentially most are so ideologically based they will only ever appeal to the few and never serve the many. The reality is that if everyone looks at the interests if the country instead of their own ideals this mix of ideologies should enable us to have a great Brexit and future.

BUT having said all of that being a democracy means we still get to vote and whether a party wins by 1 or 600 votes we have to learn to live with it, believe me I have faced many disappointments in my time and so it is with Brexit. The Brexiteers won and the remainers lost, and that is the reality of life so trying to overturn the vote is really about trying to over rule the democratic process; and to make comments such as the Brexiteers not understanding what they were voting for is pure arrogance, all because they did not vote remain it does not mean they don’t know what they were doing, time may show that the remainers had it all wrong or that everyone was wrong however that doesn’t matter now, what does matter is that the time has come when we must get behind the Prime minister and go with the democratic vote so we can make the best of the situation to ensure that there can be a very good outcome.

This is not a time to be so divided as it gives the EU the upper hand, a good business negotiator would never reveal his/her hand until they have to and so in a democratic way we need to pursue the interests of OUR country – don’t let us be deceived by the EU who have a long term plan of their own which may challenge the very basis of our democracy, the more I hear of Europe’s plans for their single European future the more I fear the Brexiteers may be right. We could be damned if we stay and equally damned if we don’t. The fact that the government has a mix of Brexiteers and remainers should ensure a fairly balanced approach to the exit from Europe. This negotiation needs us all to work together – you know the old adage regularly tossed around the workplace about ‘TEAM WORK’!

So Elouise Todd whilst leaving the EU might not be what YOU wanted, you are one of a minority group, you will do better to try to positively influence the final deal rather than attempting to reverse the process, because for good or bad we need to keep our democracy. At the moment a key question to be asked is whether we want the government or the media to decide this country’s future and I for one would prefer to throw my hat in with the government.

It’s time to make this a great Brexit deal by not allowing the EU or the media to call the shots, that would not be democratic.

 

Here we go again – learning to live with democracy

In the year ahead women can do SO much better!!

So I thought I would follow a time honored tradition and reflect on the past years public arena events, well why not after all the climate of today is all about hanging your dirty washing out in public!!

I suppose we could start by saying it has been the usual sleaze in the headlines and in social media; who can we have a go at next? Who is to be the next condemned person with no apparent real crime? Who simply doesn’t know how to dress properly/ behave properly? Who has the wrong body shape, skin colour, religion, politics,culture or social class and more importantly WHO has taken it upon themselves to make these socially important decisions about what the rest of us should be doing, thinking and taking action about? But remember you can only do this in a way that pleases these perfect individuals who have decided what we lesser beings are supposed to be doing in the first place. So where to start, well in this post I thought I would look at the controversial rise of women against abuse.

So, congratulations to all those women have used the latter part of the year to grab the public arena and expose the abuse they have suffered over the years and there is absolutely no disagreement from most quarters that this abuse is outrageous and completely unacceptable. These revelations do however raise other interesting questions of moral conscience and this time it is about the women themselves and their role in the perpetuation of this abusive behaviour, such as ‘how could you sit back and watch other young actresses meet the same fate from the same disgustingly behaved individuals, especially knowing some of these women were friends/ relatives of you the abused person’? Why on earth would anyone in their right mind go to someones hotel room and sit on the bed to discuss their future career (at 16yrs my parents had made it clear that this was no place for any form of innocent liaison)- how much did you want the career, even if you did not expect the price to be so high? So lets be honest about your part in your abuse – not that you deserved the abuse but did you leave yourself open to the risk of this treatment? Before you get on your righteously indignant podium, think about is another way, I mean I should be able to go out and leave my valuables safely at home, but if I get robbed because I did not cover all security bases then I contributed to being robbed. Now whilst that is not morally right it is a fact, and the same principle applies in many other situations including abuse

And what about the support teams to these abusive individuals – was it that you were prepared to turn a blind eye for years as long as you kept your job and/ were paid handsomely to keep quiet, is that why you were complicit in enabling these assaults to take place, because lets be honest you certainly were not naively innocent? I feel that whilst we rightly condemn the behaviour of these men and accept that they alone were responsible for their behaviour, if this type of abuse is to stop there is a need for everyone to acknowledge their role in enabling it to take place and that means everyone with the slightest link whatever their gender/ role, be they victim, bystander or perpetrator.

When looking at how abuse is facilitated I feel another area we need to review is that of who creates the public image of these celebrities. Lets be honest we have celebrities who gain their status because they have a talent, then there are those who have it bestowed upon them whether or not they want it, simply because they are related to a celebrity. Of course we also have those who actually don’t have a talent but are prepared to do anything to get into the public arena for example behaving badly on programs such celebrity big brother/ the Jeremy Kyle show.

It has to be said that we the general public play a big part in that development, we follow the badly behaved and the more badly behaved people are, the better; what does that tell us about ourselves? Well I would venture to suggest it tells us what bully’s we are and how in reality much though we have this ‘let’s care about each other veneer’ really there are things in which we are self serving and we enjoy seeing the discomfort and distress of others; we do of course console ourselves with the thought that’ well they are getting a load of money for this suffering’ and they volunteered themselves. Perhaps we should be thinking more about should we even be watching this type of ‘entertainment’,  perhaps we need to ask ourselves if that’s why the abuse in the entertainment world and other areas of life perpetuates – because we subconsciously think -‘ it’s OK if they get paid loads of money’.

Then we have the image makers, those who make a fortune persuading celebrities it is in their interests to wear as little as possible in public and to pay a fortune for it! It seems to me the less fabric their is in an outfit these days the more expensive it is. These people are just as abusive, tell me when we last saw the creators of these ‘daring’ outfits actually wearing one themselves – you will struggle hard to find one, also how many of these image makers are men deciding how women should dress. Why do we accept that women are dressed to sell sex but the guys continue to turn up looking good in the tux / suit. Let’s be honest you don’t see the male singers gyrating on stage and almost naked and yet not only do they sell songs, attract mass following most of them last much longer than the women. You watch a new female star develop on stage and before you know it she’s gone from ‘the girl next door look’ to the tart released from the boudoir!! If you need to expose yourself to sell your record it doesn’t say much about the song. So what’s the deal, think about it, is it ‘Hey great song, you’ve got a great future but you’ll need to get your kit off if you really want to be big in the music industry’?

The nearest you get for the guys is this pointless need to grab their own crotch as part of their dance/ to expose their chests. But the women – no they have to simulate sex and almost fully expose themselves in the sad belief that this is glamorous – it isn’t its abuse by your image makers, ask yourself when you agreed to get on stage minus your kit!! Look at some of the music videos without listening to the music, just turn the volume down and watch them then ask yourself would you be happy to watch this in mixed company/ with your parents/ children or people you barely knew if there was no volume, having asked many young people this very question I can tell you the most likely answer is no because it looks more like a porn video when you take out the song. Take a lead from Adele – she looks great and she has a great voice but the other thing she still has is HER KIT ON!!

So who is responsible for the abuse that takes place in the world of entertainment – well I guess we all have a role to play from the pushy mothers who want their child on the stage or who want their child in modeling to the existing celebs who having suffered so much abuse are ‘happy’ to send their children down the same career path, it saddens me so much to see the offspring of celebs walking down the catwalk – think of the risks of abuse that you know about let alone the damage you are doing to them in the way they look at their image and body. What values are you instilling in them? It’s sad that we don’t see the kids of celebs who have non entertainment world careers, your world has become so incestuous it is unhealthy.

Anyway I digress, but food for thought all the same. So where do we go from here on the issues of abuse of women? What steps should we be taking to protect individuals? Well lets start by women accepting  responsibility for making their own crass decisions, women have argued for many years that they are capable of making their own decisions, now they need to show they are capable of living with the consequences of those decisions – that doesn’t make it right but it’s what being independent and grown up is all about.

Today’s women have many advantages over women in previous years, they are more healthy, better educated, more liberated, more financially independent, more vocal and more confident than the women before them but still they have many of the same issues. Women are in many ways their own worst enemy because they are ‘first class bitches’! It is mainly women in the social media who criticise women about how they look – who is it who writes the fashion fails and successes of the week – women! Who gives a shit, if the women were happy wearing the clothes what business is it of anyone else.What gives these females the power to condemn someone for their choice of clothing?

It is women who have the most to say about how other women should conduct their relationships and who they should have a relationship with. What is the gender of the people writing about who was seen in the company of who and what that might mean for their marriage/ relationship – these women used to be called shit stirrers and marriage wreckers,  but now they are seen a ‘ professional journalists’ I don’t think so, they are still shit stirrers and marriage wreckers only now the media pays them. They need to ask themselves how responsible they are for the success or failure of many relationships they have ‘reported’ on and how much of their report is based on personal views, jealousy and lining their own pockets, lets be honest you don’t see apologies when they get it wrong.

It is women who take it upon themselves to make other women feel guilty or inadequate  about how they raise their children- look at things such as mumsnet – since when did they become the authority on child rearing? What gives them the right to damn the child rearing decisions of others? Are they the special few who have their children delivered with the instruction manual? Frankly I don’t see what is sooooo great about seeing pregnant celebs nearly naked and showing the bump, like other pregnant women when celebs get pregnant they will get a bump and they will get fat and sick and feel awful some days so perhaps the average female might appreciate seeing them in that state. For heavens sake leave people to have some shred of privacy and decency. Once again it is invariably women who get onto this gossip bandwagon.

On TV and in the public arena we have moved into this touchy feely press and discussion programs – not because we really want to be touchy feely but because we can get people crying on TV – ask yourself where do you go when you cry? Most people have a private place they cry in so why do we now have female news reporters asking inane questions such as asking bomb survivors how they feel – how the hell do you think they feel!! In addition women reporters feel compelled to use their public arena to voice THEIR opinion – NO we just want the facts, we can make our own judgements.

So ladies,  if women want to be taken seriously then perhaps they should be seen to be focusing on the important things in life and not the crap you keep churning out as females. Should they really be worried about the shape of their eyebrows or should they be checking out why homeless young women cannot get sanitary products when they need them?? Should they be getting into serous degrees rather than all these soft social policy degrees that actually do not lead to a career

So steps for 2018 –

Stop blaming men,believe me they have to take responsibility for their own actions to

Stop having transgender women deciding women’s issues, their needs, experiences and issues are different. All the issues around LGBT etc should have an arena of their own. Transgender females deciding women’s issues smacks of the Trojan horse approach.

Stop the bitching about other women, leave other women to get on with their lives and accept their own responsibilities so if that’s how you earn your living you are one of the abusers and need to get yourself a ‘proper’ job

Refocus on what women can seriously offer the world believe me there is a lot, but women need to stop using their sexuality when they think it will be to their advantage and then complain that men only see them as sexual beings when it is not to their advantage. Sort out the sexuality thing for women and the advancement of women’s causes with progress rapidly.

I believe women are letting themselves down, if they want respect they need to stop hanging their dirty washing out, stop exposing themselves for the gratification of others and get some self respect and decency back into the world of women.

Don’t blame the men for accepting everything you have offered- you gave them all the opportunities they wanted and you gave them control. No we don’t live in a misogynistic world we live in a world where women continue too use their body to get what they want and their mouths to put down and decry other women. Women remain manipulative, if they are to progress men must change they way they treat women but women must be more consistent and less manipulative – used to be called ‘womenly wiles’

Men have some serious issues to address but if as women you do not reflect on your own shortcomings nothing will change.

2018 IS NOW UNDERWAY, LETS SEE IT BE THE YEAR WHERE WE MAKE A FAIR AND BALANCED APPROACH TO EQUALITY OF THE GENDERS

In the year ahead women can do SO much better!!

UK Politicians – Nanny is no longer here! It’s time to grow up!

If ever there was a need for a real life Mary Poppins it’s now! Westminster seems to have turned into a kindergarten of squabbling children who- for reasons best known to themselves – usually self interest, find themselves with short memories on their previous performances and an inability to tell the truth! I know one of our governments educational goals for years has been to improve the Maths attainment of students across the country. One can only assume that is based on their inability to correctly calculate anything! My evidence for this – well we need look no further than the election manifestos. The conservatives seem unable to give us even a ball park figure whilst Labour are truly living in La La land with their figures. And we – the public are supposed to make informed decisions based on this lack of information from one party or delusional beliefs of the other. In that way when it all goes wrong they can blame us by saying they were just trying to give us what we wanted!! No surprises there then!!

And then we get to the point scoring behaviour,

Point 1 – we have the BBC who for some strange reason seems to have missed the fact that despite Theresa May having a reduced number of seats, she does have the majority of the seats (some 50+ more seats than anyone else) and so whether we like it or not the Conservatives have WON the election, albeit that they need the help of the DUP to give them an extra boost when ministers are voting. I’m not sure why Laura Koenssberg keeps referring to the out come as though Conservatives have lost – wildly misleading.

Point 2 – the suggestion that Conservatives are now mixing with terrorists by consorting with the DUP! Interestingly for those who have forgotten, the DUP and for that matter the Sinn Fein party, have for some years now both been taking an active role in politics, especially in Northern Ireland and both parties are seen within Westminster as being legitimate political parties. In fact both Labour and Conservatives have urged the British population to accept both parties as legitimate political groups so the question now is

Why is it no longer acceptable for the conservatives to have an agreement with the DUP?

The fact is that whether you voted Labour or Conservative it doesn’t matter as you will still end up with one or other or possibly both of these supposed terrorist parties in government. Theresa May needs the DUP and Jeremy Corbyn needs them both! So I’m not sure why Jeremy and the Labour party are suddenly making an issue about this, after all Jeremy has a personal and political friendship with Sinn Fein. Lets be honest these two groups hated everything they each stood for, now if they can get over themselves surely Westminster can deal with the situation.

Point 3 – Theresa May has made some clear gaffs, I don’t know who is advising the woman but if she is advising herself then she needs to get the opinion of others in her party. She is making some right cock ups, but not ones that can’t be dealt with – however it doesn’t exactly boost the confidence of the public and for the countries conservative voters this must be a nervous time. Theresa you need to get a grip and start working as a party, why on earth you have brought Mr Gove back into your party is quite beyond me, but hey its not my problem. I don’t need to be watching my back, but I strongly suggest you watch yours.

Point 4 – Labour’s Maths just do not add up and you only have to look at their history to know that every  time they get into power they leave this country in incredible debt!Conservatives move in and in comes the austerity measure to get the country’s finances back in order. But then they get addicted to austerity and push that agenda too far AND they need to look at who should pay back the debts. For a start off not one banker from any of the baled out banks should have had a bonus until they had repaid the public purse, and if they want to go abroad rather than pay off their debts then let’s see who would have them!! I have to agree with Jeremy that in many ways this country is run for the wealthy and not the rest of us, however this revolutionary approach of Mr Corbyn’s is equally wrong, I do not want this country in  more debt especially since we have no real idea of what awaits us after Brexit, we need to be as financially robust as possible to improve our possible outcomes post Brexit. So no Mr Corbyn, as a wealthy individual you can afford to take financial risks, the rest of us cannot so stop playing with our future well being.

Point 5 – Whether we like it or not Brexit will happen and all this journalistic mumbo jumbo about soft or hard Brexit is a  complete nonsense. We have the public wish to control our own borders, migration levels and laws – anything that affects the free movement of people means we must leave the single market. Both party leaders have confirmed in their manifesto’s that we are taking back control of these areas and therefore that means the suggestion/ belief that having Labour in government will mean we have a soft Brexit is a nonsense and should be stated instead of Mr Corbyn giving people the impression that he can get a soft Brexit. Both parties should be honest about this whole situation, this is the future of our country and at the moment I’m not feeling any confidence in anyone!

Point 6 – hate to say it guys but the votes are in, we are living in a democracy and as such the first past the winning post / the person with the most seats wins the game.

The end results for the vote on BREXIT – majority voted out of Europe, if people wanted to stay in Europe they should be voting Liberal Democrats because they were the only party with the balls to say they would not leave Europe and it cost them the election. instead most people have voted for Labour and Conservatives which means most people want to leave Europe- in fact indication is that it is more than those who voted yes in the Brexit referendum!!

Point 7 – how to  behave in the face of a national disaster – I can only say that both leaders of the 2 biggest parties have behaved in  an unacceptable way. And both should look at their behaviour and learn because they will get nowhere if they continue to behave in this way. Theresa you need to get out and meet people; you keep talking about ‘ordinary people’ as though we are a different species! If you are not careful you  will soon be one of the ‘ordinary people’. Just remember you are employed by US!! You work for US, so start treating us as your employer and not some weird species. Go and meet the victims, show your human side, yes money will be needed but showing you can feel their loss and pain costs nothing and is much more appreciated. Not a good move Theresa, even if you are under a lot of stress!

As for you Jeremy, well you should be ashamed of yourself for trying to gain political points from this horrendous fire in London. Yes the truth should come out but you need to prepare yourself for your parties role in this disaster. Your behaviour was divisive and only stirred up trouble, now we see groups such as ANTIFA and Movement for Justice both grabbing the opportunity to turn this whole thing into a violent assault on the very emergency services who have just risked life and limb to save people in that fire and the recent terrorist events. You now have a responsibility to the victims and the survivors and emergency services to get out there and make sure this antagonistic group do not turn this into some pseudo – political action!! The consequences of their behaviour will lie partially at your door. Learn when to make rallying calls and raise your game so that you are not breaking down social cohesion, you called the social cohesion in Manchester inspirational, the community at Grenfell have been equally inspirational don’t use them in your own political games.

Point 8 – YES there has to be a full investigation into what happened at Grenfell Tower, it doesn’t matter who was living there people should feel their home is safe. I hope this is not going to be another case where a Judge cashes in by spending 2/3 years reaching a decision at £200 an hour. All political parties have a responsibility to make sure public money is not wasted in this investigation, people do not have to wait years to get the results and compensation if they are entitled to it. You are right there is a need for a speedy but thorough investigation, however these extremist groups should not be trying to kid people into thinking identities can be made quickly, they can’t, the forensic science required will take time, look at how long it took to identify bodies after the Dutch aeroplane was blown up. Burned bodies are not easy to identify; equally we cannot be risking the lives of firemen or the police to go into an unsafe building.

My final point is this, stop this stupid point scoring, be more honest with the public, politics may just be a job for you but it is our future so stop putting us at risk and remember there are somethings that should be above politics and disasters  is one of them, no  one should be scoring points, as I think we may find both parties have some responsibility.

I expect better from my political leaders!

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UK Politicians – Nanny is no longer here! It’s time to grow up!

How low is too low!

This has to have been one of the darkest periods in recent UK history with the horrendous terrorist events and then this awful fire at Grenfell Tower in London. My thoughts go to everyone who has been affected by these dreadful events, words cannot sufficiently express my feelings for both the victims and their families. It really makes no difference who you are, your culture, religion, colour or where you live, the death of a loved one is always difficult but to lose someone in such unnecessary and tragic circumstances makes it all the harder to accept.

Such is the grief across many parts of the country at this time you would think people would just want to pull together and support each other and to be fair probably for the vast % of the population that is exactly what is happening, however that does leave a small % of the population who can only see this as an opportunity to score points, create social unrest, try to dissolve the cohesion within communities and they have the audacity to say they are doing this on behalf of the victims.

NO THEY ARE NOT, THEY ARE USING THE MISERY OF THESE POOR PEOPLE TO FURTHER THEIR OWN AGENDA!!

these people should be ashamed of themselves, their behaviour is self centered, immoral and cruel, they are heartless self gratifying individuals.

We have had the BBC who have provided us with an ongoing barrage of intrusive coverage of these situations asking banal questions of people such as ‘how do you feel about it?’ or ‘what did you see?’, or pushing interviews with obviously distressed people to the point where these poor souls end up in tears; this to me represents abuse of people when they are at their most vulnerable. For god’s sake do you really think people want to be seen on national T.V in such a distraught state – would the journalists what to be seen like that – I don’t think so.

This type of journalism belongs in the gutter, these journalists are literally camping out in the middle of others grief hoping to grab any morsel of emotion/ visual distress that they can get. I do wonder how low in the gutter they would be prepared to go, and after all that they don’t even get things factually correct. They have set up a practice now of following these events around the world – well actually lets be more accurate – around the western world, because they don’t behave in this way if the incident is in the middle east/ a developing country. We have seen this behaviour most recently in Nice, Paris, Manchester, London. Frankly this obtrusive and invasive form of journalism is both obscene and immoral. Just how heartless do journalists think the rest of us are that we cannot empathise with people unless we see them crying on national TV.

This form of journalism is for ratings and has nothing to do with keeping the public informed. It has no place in a decent caring society because it is neither decent or caring. Believe me I have worked with many traumatised people over the years and they worry about having been seen in these circumstances, it only adds to their trauma. The BBC should be ashamed of themselves but having seen there response on Newswatch when this issue was raised it is clear – as indeed it seems to be with any criticisms, that the BBC see themselves as providing a service. According to them they are giving us what we want, so really it is our fault.

Well there’s a surprise – I don’t think!!

Perhaps we should be challenging this belief held by the BBC, I know from the Newswatch program I am not alone in feeling this is not the best way to present the news, but perhaps I am one of a minority – we won’t know and neither will the BBC unless we all tell them. But hey perhaps that’s a battle for another day.

I will end this blog by extending my heartfelt sympathies to everyone affected and my deepest thanks to the truly heroic members of the police, fire and ambulance services.

May your god be with you and support you in your hour of need

 

 

 

How low is too low!